Unchurched Friend #2

1) What do you think is the greatest need in your area?
I feel as though one of the greatest needs would be an after school program for teens. They don't have much to do around here, and I feel that after school program or weekend type program would be very beneficial to them.

2) Are you actively attending a church?
No.

3) What are a few issues or topics that impact/interest you?
A few topics that interest me are adoption, malnutrition in children and pollution issues.

4) Why do you think most people don't attend church?
I feel that most people don't attend church because people who do attend are hypocrites. They act very friendly and welcoming when you are in church but the second they leave so does their niceness. Some of the rudest people I know attend church, but they put on such a happy face for the other church-goers.

5) If you were to look for a church to attend, what kind of things would you look for?
I would look for a church that doesn't discriminate against anyone. A church that is diverse in more ways than just one. I would look for a church whose actions match up with their words.

6) What advice can you give to pastors who really want to be helpful people?
I would tell pastors to be themselves. There is nothing more annoying then a "pastor" or "church member" who feel as though they need to speak to me in a different manner then they would someone who is a member of their church. If you go to a southern state you wouldn't try to speak with a southern accent, would you? Then do not go into the cities trying to use "city" terminology or accents.


This interview had a completely different feeling than the first one. This person almost felt bitter towards church. I felt as if they had had a couple experiences that burned them, or turned them away. They aren’t currently attending and based on the attitude given while responding to these questions I would say that they will not be attending anytime soon. With people like this, it takes time to change their mindset. They need to see that christians can be genuinely real people. This person was raised and lives in the city. They have a heart for teenagers. Because of violence on the streets they think that more after school programs would be beneficial for helping lower stastics of city teenagers. The person makes the statement that most people who attend church are hypocrits. Maybe they have worked with church goers or possibly even went to church, met someone there and ran into them on the streets. Outside the walls of the church, people change. I think this can be true and I think this very idea has turned people away. Non-church goes want real relationships. If you’re my friend in church, you should be my friend at the work place, in the streets, etc. Because this person lives in the city, they are used to evangelists coming and speaking in the streets. They look for a pastor who will be themselves. Won’t try to conform to the ways of the city (the city language, the style of the city, etc) especially if they aren’t from that part. They said that it almost makes the person fake in a sense and how are people supposed to learn about what’s real and solid from someone that isn’t their own person? I learned a lot through this interview. I thought the person gave some great points and was honest. They could’ve made everything sound cheery but they want to change the way people see church and saw this as an opportunity to be voiced.